Manifestations of Pride and Humility

The Mindset of Self

Manifestations of Pride

Pride is blinding. That is often why it is so hard to see pride in ourselves, and yet so easy to see it in others. The following list will easily clear away the smoke of any self righteousness.

From Pride to Humility by Stuart Scott pg 6-10

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A proud person in a difficult situation thinks, “Look what God has done to me after all I have done for Him.”

Proud people usually think they deserve what is good. The result is, they see no reason to be thankful for what they receive. As a matter of fact, they may even complain because they think they deserve better. They tend to be critical, complaining and discontent. The proud person is not in the practice of being thankful toward God or others.

A proud person is often an angry person. One’s anger can include outbursts of anger, withdrawing, pouting, or frustration. An angry look has been called, “silent murder.” A person most often becomes angry because his “rights” or expectations have not been met.
A proud person is usually on top looking down on others. He gets easily disgusted and has little tolerance for differences.
Many proud people have a very wrong perception of themselves.
They are a legend in their own mind, but what they really need is a loving dose of reality. They need to hear, “What do you have that God didn’t give you?”
Some proud people may not come across as proud at all, because they are always down on themselves. This is still evidence of pride because one is focused on self and wants self to be elevated. Having a “woe is me” attitude is self-pity, which is pride.
People who strive for everything to be perfect often do so for recognition. They may do it so they can feel good about themselves. Whatever the reason, this is very self-serving and proud. The basic problem is making things that are less important, more important.
Proud people who talk too much often do it because they think that what they have to say is is more important than what anyone else has to say. When there are many words, sin is generally unavoidable.
Proud people may center on themselves in conversations. Sharing personal accomplishments and good personal qualities with others can be bragging or boasting.
Some proud people find it extremely difficult to work under someone else or to submit to an authority. They have to be their own boss. They might say, “I don’t need anyone,” or “I don’t need accountability for my faith or doctrine.” They are often rigid, stubborn, headstrong, and intimidating. They may also say, “It’s my way or no way.”
Some proud people are too concerned about the opinion of others. Many of their decisions are based on what others might think. Some are in a continual pursuit of gaining the approval and esteem of others. Focusing on what others think of you or trying to impress others is being a man-pleaser rather than a God-pleaser.
Proud people usually struggle a great deal with criticism. Such people cannot bear that they are not perfect or have weaknesses because they cannot accept who they really are.
Many proud individuals know it all. They’re superior. They can’t seem to learn anything from someone else. They respect no one.
Proud people can be very unkind people. Those who belittle people usually want to raise themselves up above others. Very often this can be quite cleverly done through jesting. They may excuse themselves by saying, “That’s just the way I am. That’s my personality.”
Proud people may not serve because they are not thinking of others, or because they want to be coaxed to serve and don’t want to continue if there is no praise.
Needing recognition is a sure sign of the wrong motives in service.
Proud people are rarely concerned for others and their concerns. They cannot see beyond their own desires.
You will often hear a proud person say, “Are you saying it’s my fault?” or “Well, what about you?” They try to explain away their sin.
A proud person will make a great many excuses such as, “I was tired,” or “I was having a bad day.”
Proud people rarely admit their sin or ask for forgiveness of others. They either cannot see their sin because they are blinded by their pride, or they just can’t seem to humble themselves before someone else and ask forgiveness.
Most proud people pray very little, if at all. Proud people who do pray usually center their prayers on themselves and their desires, rather than God and others.
A proud person may detest being told what to do. We might say he or she has a submission problem. What they actually have, however, is a pride problem. It is simply displaying itself in a lack of submission.
A proud person might not be able to keep his preferences or opinions to himself. He will offer it when it is not asked for. These preferences are usually voiced without consideration for others.
Proud people typically believe their sin is no big deal. They think they have a little sin and others have a great deal of it.
To the proud person, other people are the problem. They may magnify or bring attention to the sin of others by gossiping about the others’ sin.
Proud people may become angry with others because they are concerned that their own schedule or plans may be ruined. They are often inflexible on preference issues.
Often when they do not enjoy the same benefits, proud people have a hard time being glad for others’ successes or blessings.
Proud people usually view others in terms of what they can do for them and their interests. Their focus is not on ministering to others. Everything is for them and about them.
Some proud people will do just about anything in order for others not to find out negative things about them.
Proud people may try to draw attention to themselves through dress, bizarre behavior, being rebellious, always talking about their problems, etc.
Proud people often have no use for close relationships, thinking that the trouble outweighs the benefits. They may see themselves as so self-sufficient that they do not need other people.

Manifestations of Humility

Humble people are focused on God and others, not on self. Even their focus on others is out of a desire to love and glorify God. They have the mindset of Christ.

The mindset of Christ is a focus on God and others, a pursuit of the recognition and the exaltation of God, and a desire to glorify and please God in all things and by all things He has given.

From Pride to Humility by Stuart Scott pg 18-21

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A humble person acknowledges Who God is and rehearses God’s character often. Because he does this, he trusts God much more than the proud person. In trials, he will even thank God for the reminder of how much he needs Him and for all the good He is doing through the trial.
A humble man thinks of God as his Creator and himself as God’s creation. He does not see himself as even remotely qualified to pass judgement on God or what God does. He knows that his perfect and all-wise God can do whatever He pleases, and it will be the best for him.
The humble see Christ as their life and their first love. There is no other thing or person that they must have. Through the day they talk to and worship Him often.
Humble people want to worship God and they see themselves as totally dependent on God for His enablement. John Owen once said, “We can have no power from Christ unless we live in a persuasion that we have none of our own.” Because they see themselves as needy, they pray often.
The humble person sees himself as truly deserving of hell. He is immensely grateful to God for forgiving him of so much.
Humble people thank God and others often. They expect nothing, so anything that is received is greatly appreciated.
Humble people want to act like God, and they are not focused on what they want. They also want to love others the way God loves them. They are willing to wait and are not easily irritated.
A humble person understands the sinfulness of his own heart. He would never see himself as better than others. This is true no matter who the other person is. He understands that he, in and of himself, is capable of the worst sin. He agrees with John Bradford who said, “but for the grace of God, there I go.”
Humble people do not bemoan the fact that they are not as gifted as others. Neither do they exaggerate their own abilities.
Humble people consider what others have to say as more important than what they have to say. They take an interest in others by asking questions and listening. Self is not their primary focus.
A humble person will speak well of others, not negatively. He will convey something negative about someone only if he must do so in order to help that person.
Humble people are first of all obedient to God, and then the authorities over them.
Humble people are willing to put others before self without first considering their own rights.
Humble people view reproof as good for them and consider that God may be trying to teach them something.
Humble people realize they don’t know everything, and even when they think they are right are willing to consider that they might be wrong. They also know that God can use anyone to teach them, since He was even able to use a donkey to teach Balaam in Numbers 22:22-35. They have many people they admire and respect.
Humble people encourage others. They use only words that build up and say what is necessary for the edification of others. They never cut others down.
Humble people are on the lookout for ways to serve and assist others. They take the initiative to reach out and serve others.
Humble people have no problem with saying, “I was wrong. You are right. Thank you for telling me.”
Humble people are eager to forgive because they know how much they have been forgiven. They have no trouble asking for forgiveness because they want to be peacemakers.
A humble person asks God daily for forgiveness and works toward real change.
A humble person thinks about his own sin more often than another’s sin. He also sees his own sin as more important to deal with than the sin of others.
Humble people rejoice with others when good things happen because they are aware that God has blessed them immeasurable and they trust God for what they do not have.
Humble people are open and honest about their growth in the Lord. They ask for help and accountability in the repentance process, knowing they need their brothers and sisters.
Humble people have friends and loved ones because they are friendly and love others. They are willing to ask for help with various burdens and problems they may have.